I may suck at dating, but I do make some really great resolutions. I hate that crap of “Lose 10 pounds” or some other ridiculous statement that I may or may not ever attain. I decided to make more thoughtful resolutions and put them into practice, not just for the year, but for my life.
That being said, two of my past resolutions were:
2003: To not treat someone a certain way just because they treated me that way. For example, just because someone is a total asshole to me, doesn’t mean I should reciprocate. Instead, I should continue to be myself and hold myself to the same (hopefully high) standard.
2004: Be the Bigger Person. Sometimes this is exhausting, but, I still do my best to overlook other people’s faults and just suck up my pride.
2005: I attempted to really perfect the above resolutions, by focusing on both for another year.
I know, you are expecting me to make a dating related resolution. But, ha! I’m not going to do that. Besides, what kind of resolution would I make? Date 30 men and top the 25 from last year? That’s not helpful, nor is it conducive to the true end goal of finding a meaningful, lasting relationship.
And the unveiling of the 2006 resolution:
Discard any selfish people who so obviously have their own agenda’s (friends and/or family) out of my life. I no longer have time to participate in one-sided relationships.
You’ll all be so proud. I’ve already put it into practice. I know that it seems to conflict with my earlier resolutions. But try to view them in order. I tried first to treat people right, but obviously I could only take so much of that, so I had to resolve to be the bigger person in all scenarios that I can’t control. Now I’m allowing myself the ability to just stop talking to people entirely. This might not be the best way to handle things, but I feel that there are some people who have had more than their share of chances. It’s not like there’s one disagreement and I bail out of the relationship. I’m talking about unproductive selfish relationships that have manifested themselves over a period of years, not days.
I’m giddy with excitement. Happy New Year!