All right. I appreciate every comment about the CL#4NewJersey thing. I’ve said it before: When feelings are potentially brewing for me, I start screwing up. I can manage with most of the men I go out with because I end up not caring one way or the other how it turns out. Obviously, this is different. My neighbor and friend Abby asked me last night what I was going to do about answering the email to CL#4NJ and I said, “Easy. I’m going to post it on the blog and see what everyone thinks.” So thank you to all of you.
What I decided to do was a quickie email back that simply said, “Cards? I will kick your ass at cards.” That was at 3:00 Thursday afternoon. All I can do is wait and see. But I assure you that I won’t be contacting him again, via text or email. The ball has ceremoniously been lobbed into his court.
Reya Mellicker said…
I think you’re working through something big – with all the guys but in conjunction with your blog. When you’ve worked through it, you’ll put CL#1-a million on the back burner and focus on building a big relationship.
You know I am full of theories, also full of shit. But this is the long way of me saying, you’re making all the right decisions. Your behavior, thoughts, the blog, none of that is a mistake. You are moving through something.
I salute you! You’re coming Wednesday, right?
1/12/2006 09:47:26 PM
you didn’t do anything thing wrong at all. He probably isn’t even sure you are into him. just be receptive if you feel like it when you hear from him. if your gut feels something is off, do nothing. just by not reacting, things will fall into place…
1/12/2006 10:30:08 PM
ugh. good luck.
1/12/2006 10:48:32 PM
That is sufficiently vague.
From a guy’s point of view, if he wants to know if you’re really into him, that isn’t going to cut it.
However, since I think you’re not the only gal in the picture… or he’s stuck on that sticky…it may suffice. But either way, something more definitive ought to happen. Conversation could peter out pretty quickly if it stays this coy.
1/12/2006 11:27:11 PM
eagerly awaiting his next serve….
1/12/2006 11:37:59 PM
Having already sent a did-you-get my-email text, he should have a clear idea that you are interested! I love your response – I think it is perfect.
1/13/2006 09:38:54 AM
You gotta be a little less subtle.
My friend came up with an idea a few years ago. We, like most guys, are clueless about when a chick digs on us. So the plan (which never caught on) was that we would walk around with a brick hanging from a rope on our neck. If a girl liked us, she should take the brick and hit us in the head with it…because most of us won’t get a more-subtle hint.
1/13/2006 10:06:48 AM
Perfect response-very nice serve.
Um I need some Velvet in my life. Seriously. When are you free?
1/13/2006 11:31:55 AM
I’m mailing u some consolation p_rn. :p
1/13/2006 02:15:20 PM
Dude needs to step up.
The advice I give my sisters when they have a problem like this is simple. I’ll give the same to you dear Velvet.
“If he can’t step up, get rid of him. He’s not worth it. You hold on now and give keep on giving him more chances, it will become a pattern that will dominate your relationship. They get three strikes. That’s it. You deserve someone who will treat you like a queen.”
1/13/2006 04:21:34 PM
Sub Girl said…
you’re right about the ball being in his court. he sucks if he doesn’t do something about that ball!
1/13/2006 06:55:53 PM